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MEMORIAL DAY ‘09

I like the circling of the graves, as if the soldiers were defending one another

A good day to remind myself how lucky I am to be alive and with my
family; to catch a bit of  the spirit of service and selflessness that
guides Americans in uniform; to try to reach out every day and watch
someone’s back, lend a hand, help folks who really need it, and be
determined, resourceful about it; remember that peace comes with
justice, and I want to work toward a just world as well as a world
where service members won’t have to risk their lives; and recall that
in the end I’m not doing it for the gratitude, but for the pure joy and
challenge of it.

Wanted to share these photos from a cemetery in Ohio, where my daughter is just graduating from college.  I like the circling of these Civil War graves, as if the warriors were watching one another’s backs, defending themselves to the last.

A note from the website’s founder

Why archive here? What’s it good for?

In a word: immortality. A chance to create something that might outlive you; to be your own hero.
Also a chance to immortalize people you’ve loved. Give them that gift in this season of giving. Leave this legacy for your children.

I think we’d all agree that we were put on this earth to love, not to kill. But – crazy thing – in the midst of fear and stress, dread and dying, we sometimes learn to love better, to love with special intensity.
We discover things in ourselves and in our comrades, collaborators, partners, buddies, mentors, apprentices, that make us marvel at what the human race can achieve -  at our own courage, humor, determination, resourcefulness, and, yes, our honor, our nobility.

That’s the kind of testimony we’re harvesting here: what’s good about one generation that can be cherished, protected and passed on to the next. And the next.
Not that we anticipate all good news.
We welcome cautionary tales as well. “This is how we screwed up; this is how low one person or one group sank. Don’t go there. You can do better.”
That, too, is a valuable message to put in our time capsule.
We can have the stomach to immortalize the warts along with the glory, the bad hair days along with the movie star moments.
Those count, too, and make the rest of us cherish our flaws, our dark nights of doubt and fear, our humanity.
Medal of Honor nominee David Bellavia describes the moment when he’d escaped a hornets’ nest of a house in Fallujah, riddled with lethal, drugged-up  insurgents.
He felt relief, then shame. His job felt unfinished. So he turned around, plunged back in and found the inner resources to prevail.
Traversing the Valley of the Shadow of Death, David lived both  - the glory moments alongside the  passages of weakness and self-doubt. We treasure both sides of the struggle, and aim to record them here.
They bring us closer.
And this website is all about strengthening connections, making us more close-knit Americans, prouder Americans -   more active, empowered, consecrated to lifelong service.
In our America, no one sits it out, calls it in,  takes a pass, settles for  a rain check, promises to get it done tomorrow.
No way.
Whatever breakthroughs or sacrifices, learning leaps or career milestones you racked up in the service,  there’s more you can do for your country, and we hereby challenge you: find a way, YOUR way, and do it!

Sept.11 brings it all back


Brian Delate

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Brian Delate

Hold the stories, they fester

Gene McMahon